When it comes to divorce, custody issues are often the hardest to navigate. These issues can become even more complex when your ex-spouse exhibits signs of narcissism.
While very few people have a narcissistic personality disorder, many people conduct themselves in a way that prioritizes their thoughts and feelings in personal relationships. These tips can help you deal with a difficult ex and ensure your child receives the proper care.
Keep emotions out of your relationship
Many narcissistic personalities will intentionally play on your emotions in the hopes of getting a reaction. That is why you should keep all topics of conversation relegated to child-rearing. If your ex attempts to start a fight or elicit a reaction, remove yourself from the situation. If possible, conduct all major discussions over text or email to give you more control.
Be positive for your child
Keep in mind that you and your child may have different views of your former spouse. Unless there are issues of neglect or abuse, all children deserve to have healthy and loving relationships with both parents. Refrain from bad-mouthing your ex in front of your child. Instead, speak neutrally while also providing your child plenty of love and support.
Follow a parenting plan
To maintain boundaries with difficult exes, you must have a solid parenting plan in place. A parenting plan lays out specific guidelines that you and your former spouse must follow. This can include information on visitation, holidays, medical care, schooling and other essential topics.
If your coparent does not follow the parenting plan, you can contact the court and make them aware of the issue. They will either enforce the stipulations in your current parenting plan or help you develop a new one that ensures all parties conduct themselves accordingly.