Co-parenting is often one of the most challenging aspects of divorce. It is especially difficult when your ex-spouse exhibits narcissistic traits, which can prevent you from acting in a cohesive manner.
Dealing with a difficult co-parent is definitely frustrating, but there are steps you can take to navigate the situation. Here are a few key points to keep in mind.
Examples of narcissistic traits
People prone to narcissistic tendencies like to be the center of attention. As a result, they fail to express empathy for others and their problems. Narcissistic individuals also require lots of praise, which feeds into their constant need for attention.
As far as behaviors go, many people with narcissistic characteristics will act in an arrogant manner. They will also not be shy about using others for personal gain. In this case, you may consistently feel used and taken advantage of by your ex within the co-parenting relationship.
What you can do about a difficult ex-spouse
Upon recognizing these traits, you should accept that there is little chance your ex will make a meaningful change. As a result, it is best to alter your own behaviors to ensure your child receives the best possible care. If your ex behaves in a problematic manner, do your best to stay calm. Responding with anger will only give them the gratification they are looking for.
When communicating, limit topics to those involving your child to avoid conflict. You should also be careful about what you say to your child about your ex-spouse when they behave badly. Negative talk will have a poor effect on your child, even when you have justification.
Finally, make sure you have a solid parenting plan in place. A parenting plan will establish rules for your co-parenting relationship, rules that both parties must follow.